Getting Married? Enter Reverend Ryan Abramson

Becoming a wedding officiant isn’t just about saying a few words and signing a marriage license—it’s about standing in one of life’s most sacred moments and making it unforgettable.

For me, Reverend Ryan Abramson, this journey began unexpectedly but has since become one of the most joyful and meaningful parts of my life. I now officiate weddings across Bucks County, Pennsylvania (and beyond, by invitation), and I want to share how it all started, what it takes, and how you can step into this special role too.

✨ My Story: How It All Began

I didn’t grow up thinking I’d be a wedding officiant. My background is rooted in education, communication, and public speaking—helping people find their voice and tell their stories. But one day, a close friend asked me to officiate their wedding. They didn’t want a stranger. They wanted someone who truly knew them and could bring sincerity and warmth to the ceremony.

That experience changed everything.

To make it official, I became ordained through the Universal Life Church (ULC). The process was quick, simple, and surprisingly powerful. I realized I could combine my love for storytelling with my passion for celebrating love. And so, my work as Reverend Ryan Abramson began.

🕊️ Getting Ordained Is Easier Than You Think

If you're wondering how to become an officiant, the good news is: it's easier than you might expect.

With organizations like the Universal Life Church, you can get ordained online by filling out a simple form with your name and email. Once you're officially recognized, you can order important materials like your ordination certificate, a letter of good standing (some counties require it), and a sample ceremony script to help you get started.

I found the process empowering. Having the tools in hand made me feel ready to serve couples in a way that’s heartfelt and fully personalized.

📜 What the Law Says: Who Can Officiate?

Here’s where it gets a little more complex.

In the U.S., wedding laws vary by state—and sometimes even by county. Most states, including Pennsylvania, where I’m based, recognize online ordination from organizations like the Universal Life Church. But some areas are more cautious or unclear about it.

Here’s a simple breakdown:

✅ States that usually accept ULC ordinations:
Pennsylvania, New York, California, Florida, Texas, and Illinois.

⚠️ States with legal gray areas:
Tennessee, Virginia, Alabama, and Mississippi. Some counties in these states may question online ordination, so it's always best to check first.

💡 Pro Tip: Before you officiate a wedding, call the county clerk where the ceremony will take place. Rules change, and it's better to double-check than deal with legal headaches later.

⚖️ Lawsuits and Legal Wins for Online Ministers

Being a wedding officiant might sound simple, but in recent years, it’s been the center of some big legal debates.

Tennessee, for example, tried to block online ministers from performing weddings. In response, the Universal Life Church fought back—and won. The settlement was a big win for officiants like me and helped protect the rights of those who choose a non-traditional path to ordination.

It was also a reminder: if you’re stepping into this role, be informed and stay updated on the legal landscape. The good news? The trend is moving toward inclusion and acceptance.

💍 What a Wedding Officiant Actually Does

Let me be real with you—it’s not just about standing at the altar.

Being a great officiant means stepping into multiple roles. Here’s what I do for each couple I serve:

1. Meet the Couple
Before anything else, I get to know them. Their story. Their values. What kind of vibe they want—funny, formal, faith-based, spiritual-but-not-religious, etc.

2. Write the Ceremony
Every ceremony I lead is custom-written. Sure, there are templates out there, but I believe every couple deserves a ceremony that reflects them. I include elements like welcome remarks, readings, custom vows, and the ring exchange.

3. Lead the Ceremony
From rehearsals to the big moment, I guide the couple through every step, helping them stay calm, present, and focused on the joy of the day.

4. Handle the Legal Stuff
This part’s important:

  • Sign the marriage license

  • Submit it on time to the right office

  • Make sure all paperwork is done correctly

5. Elevate the Moment
The magic happens in the little touches—an inside joke, a quote from a favorite song, a thoughtful blessing. I want every guest to feel like they just witnessed something truly special.

🧰 Tools of the Trade: What You’ll Need

Thinking about becoming a wedding officiant? Here’s what I always keep on hand:

  • Ordination certificate

  • Letter of good standing

  • Marriage license instructions

  • Custom script for each ceremony

  • Pen (don’t laugh—signing the license is serious!)

  • Back-up copy of the script

  • Professional attire

  • Contact info for the local county clerk

  • A checklist to keep everything organized

Honestly, preparation makes all the difference. You want to be ready for anything—from last-minute script changes to outdoor ceremonies with no mic.

🌟 Your Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming a Wedding Officiant

Ready to walk this path? Here’s how to start:

Step 1: Get Ordained
Choose an organization (I recommend ULC), fill out the form, and get your certificate.

Step 2: Learn the Local Laws
Google your state’s requirements or call the county clerk.

Step 3: Gather Your Materials
Get your certificate, any legal documents, and a ceremony script.

Step 4: Meet Your Couple
Understand their story and vision for the big day.

Step 5: Write and Rehearse the Ceremony
Tailor it to the couple and make sure it flows.

Step 6: Officiate the Wedding
Be confident, calm, and make the moment shine.

Step 7: File the License
Make sure the marriage is legally recognized. This step matters just as much as the “I do.”

Final Thoughts: Why It Matters

At the heart of it, being a wedding officiant is about trust. A couple is asking you to stand beside them during one of the most important moments of their lives.

That’s not just an honor—it’s a calling.

Whether you’re doing this once for a friend or hope to officiate many weddings, I encourage you to approach it with intention, care, and a genuine desire to make the day unforgettable.

Thanks for reading—wishing you joy, love, and meaningful moments, always.

— Reverend Ryan Abramson

Location: Holland, PA 19047, USA

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